Dealing with Anxiety? Growing up I never understood when people said, “I have anxiety” or “I have the fear” and then I hit a poignant time in my life, feeling alone and stuck in my suffering. Whether it’s a personal matter at home, a presentation with a tight deadline to deliver on or you’re dreading bumping into your boss each morning you’re not the only one who feels this way. Stress, anxiety or negative emotions can become really overwhelming
Unfortunately stress and anxiety are on the increase and you’re not the only one, we all have rough moments in our lives, just some hide it better than others. Some segregate themselves, some seek outside support, and some have their friends or family to lean on which is very much welcomed but no one in that present moment, are where you are and can feel your pain. As much as you are grateful for the help, that person isn’t observing the world through your experiences, your eyes or your emotions. Your inner being observes the world around you with feelings of lack, even though in a lot of cases, to onlookers there’s anything but lack
I’ve done a lot of research into the why’s and for many it’s about the self-image we put out and how the deep truth is overwhelmingly different. The façade isn’t protecting us any longer, the everyday motivational memes on social media that used to give us drive of our “inner strength” are now only highlighting that our toxic inner talk with ourselves and societies unobtainable goals are making us feel less.
So, what to do? I started this article with the knowing I’m not a professional in this field and definitely not qualified to be answering that question but only through experience can I say, you have your cheerleaders right next to you and everything inside you to change how you feel. Reach out to the people who know and love you just the way you are, the people who accept you with all your little quirks and start the conversation. A couple of suggestions which I hope will help….
“Mum/Dad/Brother/Sister, I’m going through a rough patch and I really need some love and support. Can you be there for me and show me later where I’ve gone wrong?”
When you’re trying to explain being evasive isn’t going to help. Tough love or someone telling you what you need/where you’ve gone wrong isn’t always the right way, people want to help but pre-empt your thoughts without asking how you feel which through my experience pushed me further away. Opening up and giving people direction of what you want from them in many cases means you’ll end up with a team around you who are ready to support you and be a handy resource in times of need
If your are dealing with anxiety and anything has resonated with you and you don’t feel you can reach out to anyone please get in touch, don’t suffer alone, I’ll put you in contact with a professional that can help, firstname.lastname@example.org.